Ho'oponopono and ChildrenHo'oponopono and Children
Published: May 2, 2011
Having children in my trainings is the best treat for me. I get so much sincere confirmation from them because, as you know, kids don't lie.
Dr. Ihaleakala always said it is easier to teach a chair to do Ho'oponopono than to teach people, because we think (intellect). We are always thinking, comparing, and making stories. We are never present!
Well, as it turns out, it is also easier to teach the kids. They don't complicate matters with unnecessary rationalization nor do they feel the need to "understand it" all, like us!
Did you know that, during the Ho'oponopono trainings, it is better if you fall asleep? This way, we don't take the process personally! You see, the intellect often gets tired from so much "thinking." However, the subconscious mind (your inner child) never sleeps, and this is precisely the part we want to share this information with.
I had so many wonderful experiences teaching children Ho'oponopono.
Not long ago, a mother came to me after a conference and told me her son wanted to tell me something. The boy was 8 years old, and he said: "I told my mother, 'Thank you for bringing me.' I am going to practice this, so I will have less problems when I grow up." Then the mother consulted me about a problem she had. She wanted my advice. So I looked at her boy and asked him, "What would you tell your mother?" And the boy said, "I would tell her not to worry so much, not to take it so seriously." I then said to the mother, "The next time you have a problem, ask your son!"
All the kids have such great stories to tell when they come back as reviewers. I have kids in Romania that came back alone, because their parents couldn't make it that day. These children insisted on coming, even if their parents couldn't! So the parents had to bring them in the morning and pick them up at the end of the seminar.
In Argentina, a girl came up to me during a break and asked me, "Mabel, how do you know so much about Ho'oponopono? My response was: "I don't know."
It is so much easier to work with kids. When I tell kids, "Just say 'thank you' and let go," kids go on their way jumping and skipping, repeating "thank you." When I tell adults to say "Thank you," the adults ask, "How do I say thank you?" "Do I have to mean it? Do I need to feel it?" We are always trying to understand, but there is nothing to understand, and the kids know it.
Last year, when I went to Caracas, Venezuela, a 5 year old boy came to me during one of the breaks and told me, "You know Mabel, I have a friend who is always crying because he always wants what I have. In life, you have to say thank you for what you have. You cannot be looking at what others have!"
What a lesson! Do you still think your kids are here for you to teach them? To tell them what is right and perfect for them? In fact, they are your gurus and have come to teach you. They are here to give you one more chance. If you don't know what is right for you, how can you know what is right for them?
This year in Caracas, Venezuela a mother said her son changed his mind and didn't want to come to the training the first day, so they brought him to me. When I told him that he didn't have to be with us, that he could just sit on the floor in the back of the room and play with his toys, he agreed and said it was okay to stay. Well, he ended up choosing to sit in the front row and didn't move from his chair the whole training (both days!). The first day was Ho'oponopono and the second day a Zero Frequency® training. The second day, we worked on finding our talents and passions. He participated in all the interactive exercises, always with adults as partners. At the end, when I asked who wanted to share, he jumped up from his chair several times to share with us how he was going to use the tools of the seminar to help others and change the world. It was astounding. You can enjoy him here in this video
In Guadalajara, Mexico, two kids came to me during the break. One of them had made pictures of everything I had told them. Watch the video here. The other one asked me what to tell a friend of his who was very sad and lonely. I told him to tell his friend that he is never alone, that God is always with him, and I asked him if he thought his friend would understand and if he thought it would help him. He responded: “Yes, I will tell my friend. He will understand it perfectly.”
I invited them to stay with me on the stage and they did. At one point, a lady raised her hand and asked how she could help herself because her husband had been killed in front of her eyes and she couldn’t get that image out of her mind. This boy, without even thinking twice and before I could open my mouth, answered: “That is your fault, because you bring it to your mind and then you don’t want to let it go!” I had nothing to add.
Remember: Talk to your children while they sleep! Don't tell them that the next day they will make their beds, put away their clothes, help with the house chores and get good grades. ONLY tell them, "I love you. Thank you for being in my life." Even if your child is no longer with you, talk to him or her when you know he or she is sleeping! You will get much better results. And if you "have to" tell them something while they are awake, only say, "I love you. Thank you for being in my life." That is all they need to hear.
Then, just relax. Somebody who knows them better is taking very good care of them. You don'treally know what your children have come to live and/or experience in this lifetime. Let your children be your teachers. Appreciate their existence and what they've come to give you, and everyone will reap immeasurable benefits.
Parenting could be much easier than you think and definitely more rewarding and effective if you remember just a couple of truths. Every time you say "thank you" or "I love you" (mentally if you don't feel it) instead of reacting, trying to control, and worrying, you give your children to God to guide them and protect them. Remember, God created your children and knows what is perfect for them. You don't. Please do not medicate your child so that his or her teachers and you can relax. Much of our kids' frustration stems from the fact that we are so asleep. Do not tell them what to do. Pay attention, listen to them. Let them be their real selves. Encourage your children to accept themselves by reading them The Easiest Way to Grow at bedtime. Happy kids are never a problem to anybody.
When we are okay, our kids are okay. It is not the other way around. They are waiting for us to get it!