A call to women: Choose self loveA call to women: Choose self love
Published: July 25, 2011
As women, we are taught to spend our lives worshipping and paying attention to the external world, concentrating more on physical aspects and appearances, always focusing on what’s on the outside. By doing this, we are trying to win the approval of men, thus losing our identity and becoming dependent on men. When our lives depend on men, we stop doing what works for us, what brings us satisfaction and we are very unhappy.
When we do not develop our inner identity, when we don’t feel good about ourselves, we turn into erotic objects. We see the man as prey we must attract and, with that purpose in mind, waste time and the powerful and valuable energy that we could be investing in getting to know ourselves.
Women are endowed with the power of creation. We are able to give life and overcome enormous obstacles to do so. This powerful inner strength we possess and use to give birth is precisely what we can use to create and develop ourselves as individuals.
When we begin thinking on our own terms, seeking the answers within and stop depending on the opinion of others, we find the power and wisdom inherent to our gender.
Many times our emotional connection with our surroundings does not allow us to see the whole picture, and we perceive events as problems instead of realizing that they truly are opportunities to grow and develop.
In order to face the challenges that inevitably come our way in life, we must stop concentrating on the outside and instead develop our great inner strength using more unique, creative and personal criteria.
Our true strength resides in our ability to love and accept ourselves just as we are. Inside ourselves, we can find the answers we seek and the solutions to all our problems. We can find our true happiness.
To reach our maximum potential, it is important to wake up and free ourselves from the limiting social mandate indicating that it is our duty to multiply the species and sacrifice our own wellbeing to properly care for our children.
We have been repeating this false belief for so long that it now rings true. The time has now come to realize that sacrifice does not work because, when we do things for others and we are unhappy, others aren’t happy either.
In fact, a woman who cannot sincerely love and care for herself cannot truly love and care for others because she is empty and has nothing to give. We can only give unconditionally, with true love, when we are full. When women are okay, everybody is okay.
We cannot continue to focus on keeping up appearances in order to catch a man and have children. Limiting our existence to these purposes turns us into slaves and makes us very unhappy. We can be as queens, but we must choose to be dependent. We can’t blame anybody else for our unhappiness: we have decided to believe that this is our role in society and that we “need” to capture a man and have children in order to have a place in the world.
In truth, appearances are fleeting and temporary. They do not satisfy the soul. By placing so much importance on appearances, we live in the shadow of the world outside of us, limited and bitter. Our beauty might be striking but, unless we are strong and beautiful on the inside, we will never be happy and satisfied. By seeking our true value in the wrong place, we become unable to fulfill our true purpose in this life.
Once and for all, we must realize the damage we are inflicting, not only on ourselves but also on our children and the world. When we go along and maintain a passive attitude with social pressures to focus on the physical, it destroys more than it builds.
I am not talking about the women’s liberation that leads to strong competition with men, which we mistakenly imposed on ourselves and caused the pain of competition. I am talking about the inner development and appreciation that will help us accept and respect the men in our lives because, as we learn to value ourselves, we will become able to acknowledge the value of men instead of competing with them. There are no competitors on the outside.
We must support each other. In reality, people treat and appreciate us as we treat and appreciate ourselves.
Our role in this time of great change is fundamental. Change can begin with us. Men are here to complement and support us. It is useless to continue seeing them as enemies or putting them on a pedestal. We are both just as valuable, each with specific talents, qualities, and challenges.
The world will change when we change, because happy women raise happy children, and happy children can create a better world.
It all depends on us!