Ho’oponopono and my experience in a women’s prisonHo’oponopono and my experience in a women’s prison
Published: May 8, 2015
During my last visit to Mexico City, I was given the opportunity to present at a women’s prison and, of course, I accepted. After I agreed, I was told that I wouldn’t be speaking to the most dangerous inmates, and that some of the women coming might even be unfairly imprisoned. But when I arrived, the woman in charge gave us more information, and she told us that some of the women attending were very brutal; some had perpetrated kidnappings, castrations or even killed their own children… That's when I started to feel a bit nervous. It was just for a moment. I trust God completely, and I know that He would not put me in a dangerous position, but I did entertain certain thoughts. I was surely influenced by what I have seen in the movies.
My presentation was offered to 113 sentenced inmates in the prison, and 80 of them decided to attend. Despite my practice of Ho’oponopono, I was still surprised, because once I was with them, I realized I was seeing them through the eyes of love. I really did not have any opinions or judgments; I could simply see them as the human beings that they are.
However, the biggest surprise for me was when I started talking. Even though I am used to flowing with inspiration during my seminars and when I answer my audience’s questions, the truth is that the prison experience has changed my life. I truly realized the real meaning of letting inspiration flow, and how this experience can affect our lives and those of other people.
I found myself telling the inmates things that they really could assimilate and truly helped them, but not because I was thinking what would be appropriate to say. I suggested they should consider this place a spiritual retreat in which they had the chance of connecting with themselves and discovering who they really are. While there, they would be free from many daily concerns and should take advantage of the opportunity.
I also told them that they have to write, especially books; because that would allow them to change the lives of women outside the prison. I reminded them that outside, we are not free, we just think we are. We live in a permanent prison, full of stress and concerns; we are overwhelmed. Those of us who are on the outside, should be more grateful of the freedom to come and go and the many possibilities we have. We should remember much more often to thank God for all the blessings we enjoy in our daily lives and which we usually take for granted, to the point that we don’t even notice them.
I also spoke to them about past lives, and they showed a lot of interest in this subject. I emphasize the topic of past lives, both in my seminars and outside, because it is something that opens our minds and can help us undergo many difficulties during this new paradigm we are living. We can all see that the world is getting worse in some areas, and the truth is, things will keep getting worse before they start getting better. The darkest part of the night is right before dawn, and we will have to go through this darkness before the Earth becomes Paradise again. We are going to witness many things, but we have to open up and be able to observe them without engaging with our opinions and judgments or let our fear control us.
When I gave inmates the chance to make comments and ask questions, one of the women who shared told us that she was a lawyer and that she has made many mistakes in this lifetime. She explained that she had abused her power and had actually found peace in prison, and that she was trying to convey that to her mates, particularly the young ones with less experience.
Realizing who we are and knowing that no matter what happens to us everything is an experience and an opportunity to correct mistakes and grow can help us deal with our difficulties in life in a easier way. This is true for those of us who are “free”, and definitely acquires a whole different dimension if we are in prison. We have to connect with who we are, with what we came to do in this life, and realize that everything is perfect.
So I talked about past lives. I mentioned that the person they were sharing the cell with was not a mere coincidence, and interestingly enough, an inmate who had requested to be moved to another cell changed her opinion after my presentation. I also told them that their stay in prison was perhaps a way of paying off debts. As an answer to one question from an inmate, I said that maybe she was there because in another life she had put somebody in prison. The moment I said this, they all gasped, like they had a revelation. Nothing is so terrible if we change our focus. When we do this, we can save ourselves from the suffering and seize any circumstance and find out who we are.
So yes, I invited them to write; I told them to do it when they felt fine and if they felt bad. I also suggested they should write stories of their past experiences, things they needed to let go, their new perspective and to stop “talking” about these things. I told them some stories I included in my first book, The Easiest Way, and some of them looked at each other as if they already knew them. I told them that if they knew those, they should tell each other stories like that, instead of talking about the dramatic stories in their lives. I mentioned how everything we do has consequences and that they knew this well, so now they could change the consequences because they could start doing things in jail that could change their lives forever, and for the better. I told them they should never lose hope and that they should never give up.
I also talked about how they are really are family, that they only have each other and that they should take good care of each other instead of fighting or hurting each other. I advised them to read together and comment on what they had read. I had brought 15 books as gifts, and they asked me to send them books about past lives. They were very interested in the books I brought and in all the Ho’oponopono tools that I shared with them.
One of the women in charge told us that the most painful for them was the abandonment from their families who didn’t come to visit them anymore. I then took the opportunity to let them know that, even if their families came to visit them, they wouldn’t be happy. I told them that they had everything they needed there, that the home is where you are, because it is inside, and that if they were concerned about their families outside, they shouldn’t be because if they were fine, their families would be fine out there too. I assured them if they changed, their relatives outside would change as well.
Interestingly, birds had nested and were singing right above where we were meeting. This gave me the chance to tell them that these birds did not discriminate them, and that they even trusted them with their own babies. “See, the birds trust you, but you don’t trust yourself?” I said.
It all ended with hugs because I told them that hugs are the best vitamin! Many of the inmates also came to hug us. They thanked and blessed me; they also mentioned the light that I had and the peace I transmitted. Their blessings were a true gift for my soul.
Even though I won’t be able to go back to that prison as often as I’d like because I don’t live in Mexico, we mentioned the possibility of getting other speakers to come and give those women a series of talks, classes and trainings. As you can see from everything I have described, this first meeting was very promising and gratifying. Later, I was told that on the day of my talk, the prison staff was making jokes, wondering if the inmates had escaped, because the silence and tranquility that was felt in the prison after the visit was very noticeable.
The truth is that my heart overflows with joy at the opportunity to change lives at this level. I know that I change the lives of many people who attend the seminars or who take Internet classes, but the prison experience has been a great gift for me, and I thank God for trusting me.
This prison was established 18 years ago, and this was the first time they had invited someone to give a talk to the inmates. The experience proved the real need to provide more experiences like this.
One of the inmates shared that she had taken and completed the first level training in a personal growth method, and stated that if she had continued and taken the second level, she wouldn’t have ended up in prison. Considering the opportunities that opened up, not only for inmates, but also for those of us who were blessed by the experience, I hope we can continue this type of activity.
In fact, I asked the inmates if they would be willing to make their prison a model for the rest of the world. I told them that they could be examples and influence other women’s lives. I hope the initiative can continue, grow and give wonderful results.
We only have to let go and trust. We have to leave it in God’s hands. He is the only one who knows!